CYNDALL: So many people have said they do not understand dwelling or how to let go. When you care about someone, you form a bond with him or her, even if it is one-sided, there is still a connection. For want of a better word, I will call this connection a ‘radio signal'. When you want something from someone, and think of it often, you are sending signals to him or her. If you are dwelling on this, they get signal OVERLOAD and pull away……..they turn the radio down or even off. Then you feel the pulling away and tend to push even harder. You send more signals. STOP. Anyone who is pushed feels a natural reaction to pull away. What can you do? Pull away yourself. Quit sending those pushy signals and focus your attention on YOU. Usually the other responds by wanting your attention. It may take time if you have been very pushy. Most people do not think they are pushy at all. The person who has been pushed however, may feel like they have been not just pushed but shoved.
CRISTIN: I know this may sound corny but just last night I was watching a movie called, "Eight Days A Week" on HBO. The whole story is about this young guy who stood outside the object of his affection's window for an entire summer. This girl didn't want anything to do with him because of the fact he was watching her every move. She thought it was strange and ignored him half the time. Finally, at the end of the summer, the guy said, "screw her. If she doesn‘t know what she can have with me, then it‘s her loss. I won‘t wait anymore". He then left her backyard to go to a party with his friend and visit some neighbors. When he came back home, the girl was standing outside his window waiting for him the way he used to do with her.
The moral of the story? Well, obviously it means the minute you LET GO and allow God to MOVE, you get the opportunity to have what you want. Remember what I saw was a MOVIE and they only had 2 hours to get their point across. In REAL LIFE things take longer to happen most of the time.
CYNDALL: We are not human bulldozers. Stop bombarding them with your thoughts, feelings, meditations, phone calls, and any stalking methods. Why should they even desire to seek you out when they have a ‘radio' playing in their head with your messages loud and full of static all the time? Turn the signal off.
CRISTIN: If the roles were reversed, how would you feel if you were THEM? A lot of clients are self-absorbed when calling about their love lives. They only see what they want to see and hear what makes them fulfilled at that moment in time. They do not take the time to detach from their egos long enough to become that other person and understand where they're coming from. How can you expect to get what you want when all you're doing is telling Spirit you're NOT READY? The other person in the situation cannot grow if you won't allow the energy to flow freely.
CYNDALL: If you want attention from them, make a REAL effort to stop thinking of them, focus on anything else. The person will notice a new peacefulness when they think of you and will want to communicate. No one wants noisy static on a radio. They immediately turn the radio off and after several attempts at playing the radio, only to get a loud voice and lots of noisy static, they turn it off and buy a new radio. Who can blame them?
CRISTIN: Keep in mind that while you were busy choking your man/woman in Spirit, you've let yourself go. You've stopped living life and allowing available love in. You've gotten sloppy, desperate, paranoid and maintained your state of denial. Even after you've let go a little, what makes you think the object of your affection would want you if you've not allowed yourself to grow or change? YOU HAVE TO LET GO COMPLETELY BEFORE ANYTHING WILL HAPPEN!
Nobody wants another person half-ass. Get it together and re-organize your life. Do things that make you feel great about yourself. Hang out with people who are positive and allow you to find out whom you REALLY are deep inside. Show Spirit you're ready for all the wonderful things in life and that you won't settle for anything less than what you know you deserve.
When you pull back all your energy, you begin to fill the holes you've created in your Spirit. The holes I'm referring to come mostly from dwelling and calling numerous psychics on a consistent basis. Once you STOP doing all this, the person in your situation is no longer full of your energy, forcing their holes to open up again. That person will then be ‘soul searching' to find out why the heck they're feeling so empty inside. Now keep in mind that each situation is different and everybody has a different path to follow. Sometimes letting go won't help no matter what because you're spiritual contract with that other person can be over. Ask your psychic if this is the case for you. Eventually you will get it and do what's right for you, but in the meantime, accepting the reality of the situation and letting go may be your only choice.
CYNDALL: Dr. James Dobson has a book "Love Must be Tough". In this book is a finger diagram, please read it. Sanaya Roman also has a book, "Personal Power through Awareness". Read the chapter on telepathy, in fact read the whole book, it is amazing.
CRISTIN: I know my portion of this article may sound harsh. Please understand that it is not meant to make you feel foolish for being a dweller. It is meant to be a wake-up call. If you're calling all the time, how can you expect us to get anything new? Most the time most clients don't even wait until their predictions happen before getting an update.
Also keep in mind that when your predictions don't happen, it's not your psychics' fault, it's all on you baby. We get the information at the time of your call, but if you don't do your part, Spirit will not allow you to reap the benefit of having what you desire, just because you desire it.
One last thing: Stop lying to yourself. Once you abort the denial mode and become clear, your new life can begin with or without the person you were (or are still) dwelling on. If you are not dwelling you will be whole-heartedly calling us about a subject totally un-related to your past readings and not even realize it.
Also keep in mind that this is a process and it takes time. Time can be a friend if you choose that route. Understand that if it's taking you a while to get it, the person in question will need the same respect so please try to step outside yourself. Nobody expects you to be perfect with the process immediately. Don't beat yourself up and most importantly, allow the lessons to come through.
