When your Ego gets kicked around and stomped on, What do you do?
The dictionary’s meaning of the term Ego is as follows:
The organized conscious mediator between the person and reality, especially by functioning both in the perception of and adaptation to reality.
A healthy Ego can do wonders for one’s growth, self-esteem, emotional stability and success in life. It never hurts to get a positive Ego-boost, but only if interpreted in the correct manner. If someone says, "you look great today", accept the compliment with a simple, "thank-you". Acknowledge the compliment to yourself and think, "Wow, I guess I do look great today", NOT "I know I’m just the most gorgeous person on the planet" with your nose stuck in the air.
There’s a difference between being confident and self-absorbed. If you start thinking you’re bigger than your britches, sooner or later life will smack you right across the face and you won’t look so good after all.
The Bad-Ass:
The bad ass is the angry little voice screaming for emotional redemption regarding an issue or event that has caused one pain. When a relationship of ANY sort ends, emotions tend to work over-time and the level for self-affinity can run on empty.
The battered Ego is NOT your intuition or your Spirit Guides telling you to become vindictive, it’s just the little part of your emotional being that’s feeling rejected. Everyone has an Ego and nobody is exempt from the battles that arrive with having one. One of the major keys in living an emotionally stable existence in all areas in life is having a good relationship with your Ego and keeping the bad ass at bay.
Law & Order:
The best way to keep a strong, solid relationship with your Ego is to establish Law and Order. YOU have to be accountable for telling your Ego what is accepted into your emotional circle and what is not. If you’re not up to the task rest-assured the bad ass will bite you in the butt and keep you stagnate until you’re forced to face reality.
For instance, I have full control when my Ego is bruised. I don’t allow anger or depression regarding any event to take over my being for more than 5-10 minutes, depending on the velocity of the event. I make SURE my Ego understands that my conscious mind and my higher self are in alignment. I acknowledge the event, but I force my Ego to LET GO of the dubious emotions that would hold me back from learning the lessons the event has proposed. I do not allow any negative self- gratifying events to occur during or after the event that’s caused me emotional harm. By the time the acknowledgment is up, I start laughing about the matter then move on as though it never happened.
FACING REALITY:
Keep in mind, we’re all humans here and we’re ALLOWED to feel all the emotions surrounding a bruised Ego. It’s not healthy to just wipe the pain under a rug and ignore it. If you do that, it’ll just catch up to you at a later date, usually when it’s most inconvenient. It’s always best to deal with negative events head-on. When doing this, you’re stopping the cycle of continuous devastation before another event can occur.
If a person refuses to deal with their issues and acknowledge TRUTH, they can slip into the denial mode. I’ve seen this too many times with my clients. These are the people who call psychics to hear positive news in a virtually hopeless situation. They let the bad ass dictate and filter truth in effort to shield the pain; essentially living in the land of delusions. They try everything they can to make their situation exactly what they want and nothing ever happens. These people do not even recognize the reality of their situation; thus refusing to be accountable in any way, shape or form.
Read more about denial here
THE WAR CAN BE BRUTAL:
A battered Ego is like the Devil incarnate. Positive events NEVER occur when the bad ass has full control of one‘s emotions and viewpoint. When the Ego dictates the thought process in a negative manner, one can start dwelling, obsessing, or going out of the way to cause another person pain JUST so they feel the same amount of anguish. The person’s self-esteem begins to deteriorate and depression will follow.
When a person is living with depression, their self-worth simulates the bad ass. It’s IMPERATIVE that one does NOT allow this to happen. If you are rejected in any way, know that it was the other person’s PREFERENCE. We can’t be everything to everyone. Just because someone didn’t want to hire you or be in a romance with you does NOT mean that was your ONLY chance at happiness.
If you allow that belief system in your psyche, the chances of you ever attracting a healthy or fulfilling situation is slim to none. Depression is a cop out. Do not be bosom buddies with the bad ass. You’re only dwelling in a private hell where nothing worth your energy will be allowed to enter because you locked the door. Not only that, but depression can lead to obsessive-stalking behavior and if that’s the case, you’ll never get what you want from that person or situation.... EVER.
AND THE WINNER IS...
* The person who establishes a healthy relationship with their Ego
* One who has full control over their thought process
* Someone who keeps a positive attitude at all times
* A person who acknowledges the lessons for all negative events
* One who does not allow the bad ass to dictate their self-worth
* Someone who keeps themselves out of denial
* The person who follows their intuition without wearing their rose-tinted glasses
* One who never allows another person to deplete their energy and self-esteem
The bottom line is this:
Not everyone is going to love you for whom you really are. Not everyone is going to sing your praises and hand your desires to you on a silver platter. It’s ok to feel hurt when being rejected, but it’s not healthy to allow it to dictate your thought process and actions. If you let this type of negative energy lie dormant in your system, you’re stagnating your growth and not allowing true happiness in your door. If you hold on to emotional instability and pain for months or even years, it’s time to get some help from a licensed professional and STOP calling psychics.
