Just because your Physical Self wants something does NOT mean it’s in your highest good. If a situation is NOT in your highest good, which means the actual event or person will not be in your best interest to pursue and will not be a catalyst for your soul’s evolution. A sure way to know if a situation is in your highest good is to look at the end result of your pursuit. For example:

Monica has taken a liking to a man named Joe. Her intent is to pursue this man in effort to start a romantic relationship. Joe’s interest in limited to friendship and is seeing another woman. No matter what Monica says or does, Joe’s interest remains on a friendship level. Her Ego is bruised because Joe doesn’t share the same intent. She utilizes her free will to hold on and some time later; Joe begins dating the other woman. He then cuts off all contact with Monica and she’s forced to move on with her life without him in it.

The point to that example is that Joe wasn’t in Monica’s highest good for romantic means. Both Higher Selves gave them the option for a strong, solid friendship; however, Monica’s free will limited the option to only romance. Her Higher Self then stepped in and removed the option all together because Monica’s free will bypassed the TRUE connection that was supposed to be.

This isn’t the end all, be all for Monica. Her Higher Self will present the same option for friendship, but with another man at a later date. If Monica chooses to ignore the lesson from the experience with Joe, she will continue the cycle with each option until that requirement has been met. Most likely, Monica’s lesson was to keep a friendship with a man first before she will be presented with a solid option for a romantic relationship

When I’m being asked about another person during a reading, the first thing I do is check to see if he or she is in the client’s highest good at all. When a person is in your highest good, that means they are completely available to contribute to the path you’re currently on. If they are in a client‘s highest good, I assess the situation to see WHAT that person is supposed to contribute to the client‘s path. If the person is NOT in their highest good, I let them know but I also check to see if they will ever get to that point. If so, when and what transitional phases does the client and/or the other person have to go through before he or she will reach that level.

In order for one to contribute properly to the relationship, they MUST be in your highest good. If they are not and you continue to pursue it prematurely, you won’t be receiving what you want and/or the relationship will just remain stagnate until you let go and allow that person to utilize their own free will. Remember that you can’t force someone to grow, it has to be done on his or her time.

It can be difficult for someone in a situation to know if someone is in his or her highest good. If you’re in a romance or friendship, the easiest way to tell is if the relationship is flowing fairly smooth. Every relationship has issues and people butt heads, which’s not the issue here. If two people can’t work together to reach a compromise, there’s mental or physical abuse, lack of commitment, lack of interest or the timing is off, then the situation isn’t in your highest good. If you feel stagnate with a certain person in your life, then it’s time to say goodbye. Keep in mind, some of these things could in fact be an off balance timing issue. Just because a person or situation isn’t in your highest good now, does NOT mean they can’t reach that level at a later date. That doesn’t mean we’re supposed to live in the HOPE. We’re still supposed to live in the NOW.