Managing the Manic Meltdown

In my last article, “The Manic Meltdown Movement”, I described a dramatic, energy sensation that seems to be going around and affecting a lot of people here recently. This time Spirit is offering up suggestions for managing the manic meltdown. If you are the victim, we’re going to tell you how to get out of the cycle. If you are taking part in creating a dramatic situation (Raise your hand if you’re sure…It’s ok. Be honest about it), we will produce a simple “how to” plan for managing the 3 D’s, feeling disconnected, distraught and drained. THE VICTIMS - STOP THE CYCLE OF MADNESS So now you’ve come to realize that being someone’s “special friend” isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. You’ve been there for this person time and time again and feel as though you get nothing in return, but more responsibilities and the need to crawl under the covers, never to see the light of day again. You’re now suffering from the 3 D’s and it never seems to end, but worst of all, you’re L O N E L Y. How can I be lonely if I have my special friend? I never thought you’d ask, so here we go! L- Losing sight of your own dreams and desires to be someone else’s mommy/daddy O- Over compensating for someone else’s shortcomings N- Never putting yourself first or at least a close second to people who really matter E- Every time your friend has a problem, you drop everything for the drama L- Living a lie. You’re not really the “special friend”, you are the personal assistant Y- Yearning for more. More time for yourself, real friends, family and perhaps a love life Yeah, it’s a hard pill to swallow, but the truth must be told…especially since it’s been staring you in the face for quite some time now. You’ve just been too afraid to let go of what you think is a stable life. Not quite, I’m sorry to say. Always the victim, never the creator. I think that’s how the saying goes. No wait, that’s “always a bride’s maid, never a bride“. It’s time you become the creator and perhaps eventually, a bride or groom. You don’t have to be single going through this, so these “how to” steps are for everyone in this situation… 1- Wake up and smell the coffee. You are not the special friend, but you ARE a person with real feelings, real goals and you have the possibility of a real life. It’s there just waiting for you to say, “I quit!” 2- Stop being afraid. Afraid to fight for what you deserve; a real best friend, lover or family member who is there for you just as much as you’re there for him or her. 3- Don’t just stand there, bust a move! Back that new sassy self up with confident action. Speak up and just say NO! You are no longer a doormat. You are no longer available for needless drama that doesn’t concern you. You are not getting paid for this crap and let them know just that. Sounds easy, doesn’t it? Well, it actually IS. It just takes some guts to start the process, but once the ball gets rolling you will eventually weed out the real jerks and replace them with people who match your energy. Even if your true self doesn’t surface immediately, you’ll feel so much better. Who knows…maybe your insecure creator friend (or foe) may wise up and stop taking advantage of you. You might be able to get the best of both worlds; a new life and a rejuvenated connection with your “special friend”. All may not be lost. THE DRAMA CREATOR - STOP THE CYCLE OF MADNESS, DAMNIT! You have now come to see that you’re part (or most) of the problem and not the solution for finding peace and happiness on a consistent basis. Nice. Now it’s high time you get out of your victim stance and join the rest of us in the real world. It can be really great, I promise! I know you’re used to all this crazy excitement or at least THINK you desire it, but you can be an adventurous person without the extreme highs, lows and mood swings (Yes, men too). You have to understand that DRAMA is not just a 5 letter word. D- Demanding, oh yes you are. Stop it! R- Remembering all the bad things that’s happened “to you” A- Always placing blame on someone or something else for your “problems” M- Meddling in affairs that don’t concern you. It’s not about you all of the time A- Allowing other peoples’ choices to affect you Does it feel like we’ve just kicked you in the face? Does it hurt? Well, this is what you are probably doing to other people by assuming the role of the DRAMA CREATOR. You don’t think we’re talking about you here? Think again. Everyone has created drama at least once in their life, myself included. Like most of the world, you believe you are a good person and to be honest, you probably ARE, but check this out: Everyone will always have more room to see themselves clearer, learn, grow and change. Always. So let’s get started, shall we? 1- Be accountable for your thoughts, words and actions. Stop placing blame elsewhere when there’s a possibility that you’re part of the problematic situation. It takes two to tango. You are not going to be right all of the time. 2- Treat others how you want to be treated. Think about what you’re going to say and do prior to doing it. Be grateful and kind to those who are extending their time and effort to help you out. 3- Still be a creator, but stop messing with the big D. If you feel the need to “shake things up“, do so by finding a new passion in life, not by dwelling on all the things that have happened “to you” and shouting them to the world. 4- Do it all by yourself! Create the confidence to achieve the exciting life you want and deserve. Stop seeking out friends who appear to be weaker than yourself, just to get constant validation from the public and/or to utilize their resources. 5- Behave. Don’t cause problems where there are none just because you‘re unhappy. The above are the first steps to achieving a better environment for yourself and people living in your circle, but wait, there’s more! In order for all of this to actually work, you have to be able to manage the 3 D’s: disconnected, distraught and drained. First of all, you have to find more unemotional methods of releasing those D‘s. It’s ok to feel them, it’s your right, but holding on to them for long periods of time and then getting angry only hurts you in the end. Channel your energy toward something that will help you let go of the angst. * Take some alone time and pamper yourself * Exercise and if the weather is good, get outside * Start a new hobby or join a club/class * Meditate and/or connect with your higher power and yourself * Go out on the town or even better, get out of town for a bit * Try not to focus on what you don’t have or wanting what somebody else has * Learn about the Law of Attraction and start applying it to your life/future If you have decided that you’re a drama creator, understand that we’re not saying you’re made of stone. It’s quite the opposite, actually. You may be more vulnerable than you’re willing to see or admit. It’s very important to take care of your special needs so that you don’t rely on others to provide them for you. The excitement you’ve been craving will come to you, but not in the dramatic sense. This will ultimately bring you the inner peace, love and happiness you deserve. Try it, you have nothing to lose!