By nature we tend to dramatize our inner most issues and psychologically toy with our perception of situations, other people's intentions thus living in fear. Everyone has dealt with this type of delusion at one point or another and if you haven't, your time will come. Not every situation will present clarity right away, particularly when it involves other people's fears, insecurities and free will.
A negative personal perception can be extremely damaging to our relationships, especially when we're looking at a situation in a negative fashion without anything to base our thought processes on. When in doubt, ask the question. It's better to know the truth from the horse's mouth, rather than have an expectation that is just very incorrect, positive or negative. If you do not have the luxury of getting answers from a direct source, do not assume. If you're getting nothing, you can't believe anything. Just let it go.
So if you're one of those individuals who instantly go to the negative in your mind when the answers have yet to present themselves, I present to you the "Three S"
SIMPLIFY
Take the issue at hand and reduce it to the lowest denominator. Eliminate fear-based assumptions. How do I know it's fear, you ask? Simple. If you are assuming a negative without having concrete, physical proof then it's fear. Detach from the situation by trying to view it from a neutral perspective. Take your ego out of the mix, refrain from blame and stop going over the situation in your head.
SURRENDER
Surrender your probing thoughts, negative emotions and/or scattered conclusions to the Universal Spirit (God, the Universe or whatever). Only then will the answers come whether in the form of an epiphany or a direct source. Take on the thought process of "I'll get the answers and/or closure when I'm supposed to" and leave it at that. Essentially you are to completely and consistently LET GO.
You will NOT get your answers if all you're doing is asking questions. Spirit will not talk over you and neither will the other person in your situation.
SUCCESS
The reward(s) for all your efforts will be granted when they're supposed to, but only when you've done your fair share of the work. Do not expect the Universe to just hand you what you want on a silver platter. You know you've completed that level when you're fully accountable for your actions, forgiven all the parties involved and are NOT playing the blame game any longer.
Contrary to popular belief, not a single one of us human beings are normal. We're not average and we're definitely not meant to be robots programmed for perfection. We're all connected and created by the Universal Spirit. What's so wonderful about this connection is that we all go through the same type of issue and desire the same thing out of life. We all want to be happy.
Life can be a lot easier if we stop creating our own problems. You may not be in control of someone else's thought process, words or actions but you can control yours. Keeping it simple and keeping it real will allow you more time and energy to attract what you really want. Do not beat yourself up if your work isn't complete quickly. By doing the work and having faith, the reward will show up when your turn comes.